TRUE SELF AND FALSE SELF
Let’s
first talk about true self. So, what is the actual meaning of true self?
The
true self is the core of you, the original you, unshaped by upbringing or
society. This is the state you were born in and it is the state that still
exists inside you. I know you might be thinking that does it means that we have
to regress back to our childhood. If you think so, then the answer is NO!
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This
is so because, as you have grown physically, your true self has grown too.
However, it is usually strongly guarded by the false self and, at first, might
be difficult to reach.
Now,
the question arises that what is false self?
Your
false self can also be called your adapted self. This is that part of you that
has altered behaviour, repressed feelings and has pushed your needs aside to
fit in with others.
Let’s
take an example to make this concept more clear. Take the example of onions.
Imagine people are like onions. At the centre lies our true self, surrounded by
layers we have developed through our lives as protection. These layers are our
false self. The centre of the onion needs these protective layers to be able to
survive.
False
self is a misconception created by the society and the people. It is very important
to find our true self. This might seem unrealistic and abstract, but this is
the true essence of life. Following a small extract for false self:
If
I am pretty, I will be more likeable.
If
I have a lot of money, I am successful.
If
I work hard or achieve more, I will have more value.
One
glass of wine, and I’ll start feeling better.
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